One of the biggest obstacles to daily life we encounter in my household is fear. My son struggles with fear immensely, especially at night. However, the apple does not fall far from the tree. Since becoming a mother, I have many irrational fears that I struggle with, sometimes on a daily basis. I remember sharing one of biggest irrational fears with my ladies group and how it stirred up a lot of laughter. During the summer, I struggle with the fear of snakes or the fear of one snake, the rattlesnake. They are very common where we live. Snakes are also a reason why I like winter so much. This is a common fear, but mine goes to the extreme. I was afraid of a rattlesnake biting one of my children. Our house is far away from a hospital or doctor’s office, so the fear was more of what to do if it happens. I struggled with it so much that I did not want to let my children go outside unless their father was home. In my mind, he would know how to handle that type of situation. Every day in summer time, I would walk out the front door praying that God would drive all snakes away from the areas my children would play at. Tell you the truth this fear was exhausting to me. Many of you reading this may have similar fears. Maybe the worry brought by these fears is exhausting you as well. What can we do?
- Get to the core of your fear. Looking back at my snake fear, was my fear really of snakes? No. My fear was not being able to help my children if they did get bit. Basically, I would have no control of the situation. I was comforted by my husband’s presence because I felt he had more control. He would know what to do because he always knows what to do. So my fear boiled down to me not having control over a situation.
- Take your fear to the only deliverer of fears, God. Psalm 34:4 says, “I sought the Lord, and He heard me, and delivered me from all my fears.” Pray and seek the Lord about conquering your fear. Does He make the fear disappear? No, not likely, but He will show us how to appropriately handle our fears. Look further to vs. 5. “They looked to Him and were radiant, and their faces were not ashamed.” Instead of focusing on our fears, we should focus and look upward to God. He is the only one in full control.
- Release, Release, Release! Now that you know the true cause of your fear and have taken it to God, release yourself into God’s hands. Let go of the exhausting worry. Continue to pray, yes, but do not continue to dwell on it. Let God protect you. Sounds easier than it is to do. However, this is essential if you want to live a life free from fear.
- Memorize Scripture. Memorizing Scripture is a powerful tool to living without fear. Locate Scripture that can help you through a certain situation dealing with your fear. Now at any time you can recite this verse to help you refocus on God during a particular situation. For my son, who tends to be fearful at night, our family learned three different verses that we recite at bedtime every night. These verses allow us to refocus on God and opens conversation with our children about depending on God during fearful times.
I will both lie down in peace, and sleep; For You alone, O Lord, make me dwell in safety. Psalm 4:8
Fear not, for I am with you; Be no dismayed, for I am your God. I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. Isaiah 41:10
When you lie down, you will not be afraid; yes, you will lie down and your sleep will be sleep. Proverbs 3:24
Put these steps into practice and see how your life can be turned around!! These are good steps in the right direction to free you from the exhausting grip of fear.