When You Feel Unimportant

The transition from being single to being married can be very overwhelming for a young woman. At least, it was for me. Marriage was a major step in the direction from transforming my entire identity. Once I was married for two years, I found out that I was going to become a mother for the first time. After eight years and two babies later, I hardly recognize the young girl who drove from Missouri to North Carolina to go to seminary. I often look back in awe at the person I was and the person I have now become.

If we are not careful, it is easy to lose our identities as God’s children. We can become so focused in our roles that we can feel somewhat unimportant and lost. As a full-time wife and mother, I struggle with always thinking of my family before anything that concerns me. It is easy to begin to think that I do not matter. However, that is so far from the truth. Here are three passages to help you in times when you think you feel unimportant.

  1. God loves us. It sounds like a simple statement, yet so profound. Look at John 3:16:

 For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.

In this passage, which most of us know by heart, it states that God gave His son so that those who believe will have eternal life. If you are a believer, you are talked about in this very passage! God did not what you to perish, so He provided a way for you to spend eternity in Heaven with Him. Not only did He provide a way, but the way was His own son! He would not have done this if you were not worth it!

2.  Christ Seeks Us. Let’s look at this parable that expresses how precious we are to Him. Luke 15: 4-7:

What man of you, having a hundred sheep, if he loses one of them, does not leave the ninety-nine in the wilderness, and go after the one which is lost until he finds it?  And when he has found it, he lays it on his shoulders, rejoicing. And when he comes home, he calls together his friends and neighbors, saying to them, ‘Rejoice with me, for I have found my sheep which was lost!’ I say to you that likewise there will be more joy in heaven over one sinner who repents than over ninety-nine just persons who need no repentance.

This is a description of a shepherd leaving his flock of ninety-nine sheep to go in search for just one sheep. Not only does he leave the flock, but when he finds the lost sheep, he rejoices. He is not mad or upset that the sheep is lost. He rejoices that the sheep is found and calls others to rejoice with him. He seeks you out. He rejoices over you. You, his lost sheep, is found! When you became a believer, there was rejoicing in Heaven. An unimportant person would receive no rejoicing, but this is not the case with you!

  1. Christ prayed for you. You read that correctly! Jesus Christ actually prayed for you. Read it in John 17:20-23:

     I do not pray for these alone, but also for those who will believe in Me through their word;  that     they all may be one, as You, Father, are in Me, and I in You; that they also may be one in Us, that the world may believe that You sent Me. And the glory which You gave Me I have given them, that they may be one just as We are one:  I in them, and You in Me; that they may be made perfect in one, and that the world may know that You have sent Me, and have loved them as You have loved Me.

In this chapter, Jesus had just prayed for His disciples. He went on to state that not only did He want to pray for His disciples, but also all the believers. If you are a believer, Jesus was praying for you! He prayed for unity and all to be one in His body. He was making intercession for you, my friends! How absolutely amazing is that! The King of kings made intercession for each of us!

We have to remember the love of the Father and how important each of us, as children, is to Him. We must internalize this and allow this to be our truth. Life can be very demanding and tough. It is easy to give in to negativity and lies that are fed to us by the enemy. However, we must think upon the truth. That truth is that we are important to God and loved by Him. He never forgets or overlooks us. Instead, He seeks us out and wants a continual relationship with us.


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5 thoughts on “When You Feel Unimportant

  1. I needed this, I have to remember who I am in the BIG picture, me the sheep among all the others who is unworthy of the unconditional love that the FATHER has for me.

  2. What an important reminder and message for all of us wives, mothers, women in ANY life journey that can sometimes leave us feeling unimportant. I loved the scripture you pointed to for this particular need of encouragement. I will hide them in my heart, and know that I am so loved and so important to the God of creation. <3

  3. Thank you for sharing John 17:20-23. I really appreciate it. I feel so Blessed that Jesus prayed for me and everyone, all believers! God Bless!

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